There’s so much back story that people have. From terrible childhoods, horrid relationships, physical, and mental abuse, to our own personal internal demons.
Each of our histories are different, but the fundamental outcomes are similar.
There aren’t necessarily easy answers to every problem, but the resulting feelings, the anxieties, depression, worries, energy and stress, can be treatable and resolvable.
There used to be a quip that was meant to be funny, but there’s a true gem within it.
“Whenever you come to a fork in the road, take it.” Sounds like just a clever way of wording, but there’s “gold in those hills.”
Allow me a little more time to explain. Most of us with tendencies toward very common occurrences, anxiety, depression, overt sensitivities, may be able to trace the starting point or the events in our lives. We can remember a time, place, event, or person which caused us pain.
Do you want to continue to live with that distress? Do you believe all is lost, there’s just no hope? I’m here to tell you, I’ve walked, talked, and lived in those shoes.
Do you really want to shed those problems and live a life that you can only imagine? I offer this advice as a starting point. A way to overcome virtually everything that’s troubling you.
I’m not a trained professional, or a doctor of any psychiatry or psychology profession. What I can offer is a way out, no payments or money requested. No adoration or manipulation. No promises or miracles. I simply will explain what has helped. You must be absolutely committed to achieving this success. I can’t do a thing that will help you, if you simply find yourself doing nothing but being critical of what I write.
This isn’t going to be a take this pill or magic herb, do all these things, and you will be cured, it’s just going to be practical tips to improve your well being. Your outcome isn’t guaranteed. Just don’t accept this advise without seeking professional guidance. If you’re spiraling downward, getting into scrapes with the law, then don’t follow this advice if you have any reason to believe it’s harmful.
This won’t be a rainbows & unicorns set of posts. I’m offering nothing more than what I’ve learned. If there’s any worsening of your present condition, suicidal thoughts, or self-harm emotional disposition with what you’re reading and following from my advise, cease immediately and seek professional consultation help. No self-identification, please. If you respond, anonymize who you are for your safety. Sharing should be allowed but guard your privacy.
The Beginning of Feeling Better
So, let’s go back to the quip, because it holds the first key, in a series of things you must do to feel better. “when you come to that fork, take it.” That suggests you must move forward. How do I do that when I feel this way or have these problems?
You have several choices as long as you’re alive.
- stay the same
- relive the past
- move forward a step at a time
History of any type, personal, or that of a group, can teach us something but it shouldn’t be constantly relived. The definition of insanity is described as doing the same thing, the same way, but expecting different results. The cycle must be broken. Live with your self in the present, don’t regurgitate those painful moments. That’s personal torture. It’s why so many of us have deep seated emotional problems. Just as an athlete becomes stronger, and more skilled with repetition, if we continue to re-live those negative moments, we’re enabling and strengthening the hold they have on us.
To step forward to a brighter and happier future, we must remember this one maxim. Living in the past is a country that we’ve seen, no longer have a visa, and we’re denied reentering.
That’s the starting point. I’m going to continue writing on this topic if I receive positive feedback. There’s much more to say and even more to do.