Category Archives: Athletics

Your Sister May Be Your Uncles Nephew

OK, that heading may be a bit confusing, however I’ll attempt to explain…
We live in a different society than when I became part of it. I’m a different person as well. I may have evolved, then again, perhaps for some, I may have devolved.

Here’s my evolution of thought, right – wrong – or confusing to some. What’s so disturbing to people who are heterosexual about people who are homosexual? Is it their sense of fashion? The manner in which they speak? They may convert you to the ‘dark side’? Well if you were truly honest with your answers you probably don’t know, because just like people who are straight, people who are gay, are not all the same. Shocking revelation, right? Of course not and what’s even more so, is the manner in which some people identify them as subversive, evil or not to be trusted.

I’m not attempting to undermine someone’s religious beliefs. I know there are numerous thoughts on morality. Perhaps those that hold the idea defining homosexuality as immoral and those who see it as normal in their life, share one thing in common. May be the problems we face are about how much emphasis we have placed on our sexuality and how it defines who or what we are.

Elizabeth Taylor, Rock Hudson in Giant

We often observe our world through a false lens

In almost every urban corner, available to every screen, almost every radio station and on many publications we are inundated with messages related to our sexuality. The message creators, artists and people of commerce recognize the common thread for most people can be as simple as our reproduction. The physical act of sex has become so blaring a message that entering a serious discussion is fraught with mixed messages.

We know or should know these basic facts, sex has been fundamental to the continuation of humans as it is throughout the known living world. It is also pleasurable for most people and for many it defines their confidence within. Rather than go into health related or other issues, from those points a divergence of opinion continues. So celebration over the act of sexual intercourse is bound to solicit numerous emotion.

What we can’t seem to agree on, are our labels of people who have sexual intercourse in a different manner than ourselves. Even though there are numerous examples of people who have continually abused others through their acts of sexuality and have considered themselves heterosexual, the automatic claim by some, is you’re a reprobate if your physical desires are toward the same-sex. People with whom we have placed great trust, have conducted themselves in ways that no matter what their sexuality, are abusive or criminal in nature.

Consider your own actions, not necessarily related to sex, what are they and how do they impact the lives of those with whom you come in contact? Furthermore, do you use your sexuality as a weapon, emotional lever or bargaining tool of superiority? There are a lot more ways we should be examining our behavior and thoughts other than simple sexual preference.

Hansen Unplugged: Celebrating our differences.
Perhaps this sports commentator summarizes it best.

A Flicker of Delusion a Moment of Grandeur

We can see all around us the vanity of the moment. Our present international, enshrined in glory for those who achieve 1st place in their competition, are the Olympics. I realize this could almost be seen as blasphemy, but I hope you have enough patience to read on as I attempt to explain.

Mouse that roared

The mouse that roared at shadows

We live with examples in entertainment, politics, sports, business, etc. whereby we recognize people for some unique characteristic which demonstrates they are the better than all others by some measure. We worship and adore the top entertainers, athlete, wealthy and political leader. It’s accepted practice to believe the only worthwhile efforts are those which help propel us to the top of our game / endeavor. We use statistical analysis to explain why this person or that idea is better, and yet do we delude ourselves? Are we after all is said and done, the mouse on the hill which roars at our own shadow?

I’m going to suggest this man, Jiddu Krishnamurti, has already summarized what I’m now writing on when he said, “don’t compare yourself to others.” I know it goes against almost everything we’re taught. It’s as if we’re the moth attracted to the flame. We’re surround by a vast sea of truth and lies in which it’s our challenge to discern useful fact from enticing fiction.

Jiddu Krishnamurti summarized in the beginning, at the occasion of dissolving an organization in which he was head. It’s the story of how the devil and a friend of his were walking down the street, when they saw ahead of them a man stoop down and pick up something from the ground, look at it, and put it away in his pocket. The friend said to the devil, “What did that man pick up?” “He picked up a piece of Truth,” said the devil. “That is a very bad business for you, then,” said his friend. “Oh, not at all,” the devil replied, “I am going to let him organize it.”

motivational speakersThere’s an entire industry of paid professionals which offer their ‘secret sauce’ in helping you achieve goals and aspirations. I’ve created this short list as an example, not as a criticism but recognition of their status among the pantheon of professional advisers, past and present.

I know there are many others which have thoughts and ideas that are beneficial. I couldn’t begin to list them all. So what can I or anyone suggest from any or all, I again turn to another for quote: Absorb What is Useful. – Bruce Lee.

Getting back to the original thought, as we’re taught from our schools which use comparison testing, to post secondary education and business giving out rewards for success. Be cautious in comparing yourself. The damage you do may supersede the intended good. It’s not so important when we learn to walk, run or ride a bicycle, rather it’s important that we do.

Click on these two links by a creative artist who best summarizes the idea of comparisons and the road of success.

Jiddu Krishnamurti quote from his book Freedom From the Known: “That is the first thing to learn — not to seek. When you seek you are really only window-shopping. The question of whether or not there is a God or truth or reality, or whatever you like to call it, can never be answered by books, by priests, philosophers or saviors. Nobody and nothing can answer the question but you yourself and that is why you must know yourself. Immaturity lies only in total ignorance of self. To understand yourself is the beginning of wisdom.”

Skye Bridge Scotland

Live, laugh, love, cry, worship and enjoy. Realize your dreams and your goals are merely pathways to greater personal understanding. You may not understand any of it in the moment, but over time you can. When all is said and done, all that can be said is done. Live without regret.

The Difference Amongst Us

Boston marathon mile 25 050418 cropped

I’ve thought about the tragedy that occurred during the Boston Marathon yesterday. Many of you have as well.

It seems there are always people living amongst us willing to harm others. It’s most often carried out in the name of some irrational ideology or thought process which a sane person would immediately understand as despicable.

Marathon bombings bear similarities to IED attacks

Even though the perpetrator(s) haven’t been caught as of this writing, I’m reasonably sure before this act was conceived, planned and acted upon, the perpetrators  thoughts justified the act. This would have occurred over an extended period of time and as the individual(s) thought more about their purposes, the decision to carry out such an act was totally within their frame of mind and they considered it fully justifiable.

Our current societal frame of reference views this in the correct context, as an act of calculated cold-blooded violence. It is inexcusable, however you can go back over recent history and see how other terrorist acts were rationalized by those that conceived them and acted upon their thoughts. They live among us today and for inexplicable reasons they are honored and accepted as worthy members in our society.

Of course they justify their pernicious acts, but in the end they are acts of terror designed to disrupt, bring forth chaos and in their view, bring about positive change. I for one can not see it this way, nor should any rational thinking person. I hope we never get to the point of honoring those who carried out this act of violence as we saw in yesterday’s Boston Marathon.

“I was shocked at the anger toward me” At Home with: Bernadine Dohrn