Author Archives: Mike Livingston

Overcoming Anxieties, Depression, “the Bad Feelings”

spacial_spirals_tilesThere’s so much back story that people have. From terrible childhoods, horrid relationships, physical, and mental abuse, to our own personal internal demons.

Each of our histories are different, but the fundamental outcomes are similar.

There aren’t necessarily easy answers to every problem, but the resulting feelings, the anxieties, depression, worries, energy and stress, can be treatable and resolvable.

There used to be a quip that was meant to be funny, but there’s a true gem within it.

Whenever you come to a fork in the road, take it.” Sounds like just a clever way of wording, but there’s “gold in those hills.”

Allow me a little more time to explain. Most of us with tendencies toward very common occurrences, anxiety, depression, overt sensitivities, may be able to trace the starting point or the events in our lives. We can remember a time, place, event, or person which caused us pain.

Do you want to continue to live with that distress? Do you believe all is lost, there’s just no hope? I’m here to tell you, I’ve walked, talked, and lived in those shoes.

Do you really want to shed those problems and live a life that you can only imagine? I offer this advice as a starting point. A way to overcome virtually everything that’s troubling you.

I’m not a trained professional, or a doctor of any psychiatry or psychology profession. What I can offer is a way out, no payments or money requested. No adoration or manipulation. No promises or miracles. I simply will explain what has helped. You must be absolutely committed to achieving this success. I can’t do a thing that will help you, if you simply find yourself doing nothing but being critical of what I write.

This isn’t going to be a take this pill or magic herb, do all these things, and you will be cured, it’s just going to be practical tips to improve your well being. Your outcome isn’t guaranteed. Just don’t accept this advise without seeking professional guidance. If you’re spiraling downward, getting into scrapes with the law, then don’t follow this advice if you have any reason to believe it’s harmful.

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No rainbows & unicorns or magic

This won’t be a rainbows & unicorns set of posts. I’m offering nothing more than what I’ve learned. If there’s any worsening of your present condition, suicidal thoughts, or self-harm emotional disposition with what you’re reading and following from my advise, cease immediately and seek professional consultation help. No self-identification, please. If you respond, anonymize who you are for your safety. Sharing should be allowed but guard your privacy.

The Beginning of Feeling Better

So, let’s go back to the quip, because it holds the first key, in a series of things you must do to feel better. “when you come to that fork, take it.” That suggests you must move forward. How do I do that when I feel this way or have these problems?

You have several choices as long as you’re alive.LP-record-image

  1.  stay the same
  2.  relive the past
  3.  move forward a step at a time

History of any type, personal, or that of a group, can teach us something but it shouldn’t be constantly relived. The definition of insanity is described as doing the same thing, the same way, but expecting different results. The cycle must be broken. Live with your self in the present, don’t regurgitate those painful moments. That’s personal torture. It’s why so many of us have deep seated emotional problems. Just as an athlete becomes stronger, and more skilled with repetition, if we continue to re-live those negative moments, we’re enabling and strengthening the hold they have on us.

To step forward to a brighter and happier future, we must remember this one maxim. Living in the past is a country that we’ve seen, no longer have a visa, and we’re denied reentering.

That’s the starting point. I’m going to continue writing on this topic if I receive positive feedback. There’s much more to say and even more to do.

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What Can We Learn From the Year 2020?

The year 2020 a new virus is released and instead of collecting the data, using the best data available, we’re arguing over whether we should wear masks, or it’s a conspiracy.

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Going Forward 2020 & Beyond

Yes, the information we have now is somewhat different than we originally heard. The basic facts are the same. There’s no value in arguing over unessential, purposeless points. The essential key-points! Prevention and treatment.

• It’s a virus not unlike flu, highly contagious and potentially deadly.

Here’s the latest data source information on COVID-19 for the USA. Click on this underlined link.

• Cloth masks other than the better fitting and filtering N95, keep some of our aerosol particles being expelled into the atmosphere. On the receiving end, a mask will help prevent many of these virus laden particles from being inhaled. I know people like real simple explanations so here’s the dumbed down version… Cloth masks help but aren’t 100% effective.

• Choose your exposure wisely. Social distancing within enclosed buildings isn’t proving as effective as many are led to believe. Why is that? Look at your residence when the sunlight is shining through a window. Notice the particles floating around? Those are the vehicles for the much tinier virus to move around. You can be >30 feet away from someone that has COVID-19, within a building while the air is circulating those particles. The masks and distance help reduce the payload, but don’t get lulled into a false sense of safety. Going to parties, close groups in bars, including restaurants, large stores, are higher risks.

• Waiting around for a vaccine as a way to stop the spread of the current virus isn’t likely useful. Why? This is like other prior viruses which mutate. People who understand how vaccines are supposed to work, know they’re designed to target an existing virus. It’s a moving target. COVID-19 is a fast moving target. It’s already mutated hundreds of time that we know. Our resistance through our antibodies aided by effective treatment will get us past our present problems.

• How are we going to move forward and stop being afraid of the future? I’ve allowed myself to get sucked into the fear and uncertainty arguments. It’s a waste of my time. Yes, at the time of this writing, infection rates in the USA are increasing, however the survival rates are over 96+%.  If you want to post, “what if it was someone you know and love that died?” Fine, if you want to sail on the good ship ‘USS-Guilt Trip’, know that I’m not boarding. I hope my friends and family exercise caution, but to justify living in fear, so I can satisfy your level of paranoia isn’t my goal.

• There appears to be some excellent news about treating the disease early on. I’m not sure how widespread this will be accepted because the treatment is inexpensive.

Pharmaceutical companies and corporate infotainment media are economically connected. One hand washes the other. I don’t believe many of us are going to know about these success stories unless we know people who have been successfully treated. If you know this to be the case, tell others. Humans are resourceful, but many of us are resistant to accept anything beyond group thinking. Our social group thinking kept us alive through many primitive historical events. Think how well a single human fared against a saber-tooth tiger. In a group, humanity survived. Today, it may just allow you to be persuaded to select against your personal survival.

Finally, if you’re truly interested in others, and you want to be seen as a good person, find ways to do so without harming other people. Riots, racial themes to advance one racial preference over another, deconstruction policies, defunding police, are all societal cul-de-sacs.

The Beatles – Revolution

You say you want a revolution, well, you know
We all want to change the world
You tell me that it’s evolution, well, you know
We all want to change the world

But when you talk about destruction
Don’t you know that you can count me out
Don’t you know it’s gonna be
Alright, alright, alright

You say you got a real solution, well, you know
We’d all love to see the plan
You ask me for a contribution, well, you know
We’re all doing what we can

But if you want money for people with minds that hate
All I can tell you is brother you have to wait ..

You say you’ll change the constitution, well, you know
We all want to change your head
You tell me, it’s the institution, well, you know
You better free your mind instead ..

Don’t you know it’s gonna be
Alright, alright, alright

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A Bright Side of Time

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I traveled far from home last November. I boarded a plane in the US, destination UK. After 6+ years of online communication between myself and a woman in the UK, I thought I had found love. In about a month after my arrival, I became yesterday’s news.

I was smitten, and she was infatuated. She wanted to be in love,
and she believed she was in love with me. It turns out the single life for her seems better, for now

She discovered I wasn’t her ideal companion. Those feelings were further amplified by her discussions with her sister. Her sister then determined to set things right by reading me the riot act.

Fortunately her mom & dad didn’t behave in the same
boorish manner and we had a lovely dinner a few times together, as well as a wonderful walk in a botanical garden.

I left the UK in January just before the COVID-19 pandemic.

Recent communication between her and myself became strained. Her last text said she was annoyed with
my frequency of texts. Thus the circle is complete. What started out simple, became complex, now I’m returning to simple.

I’m going down my own path, far from the confusion of what someone else may think of me. I learned some things and I wish her well. She’s a very nice person.